Just went out for the second time with a quiet Chinese girl named Rita. Started well – I ran the cube, and it went well. One bonus is that it adds a lot of conversation. However the big issue from the date is that I was running out of things to say. She’s quiet, and that doesn’t help, but I also want to become a lot more talkative. I think the key is to put myself in as many social sitations as possible, and just practice opening up, relaxing, and being myself.
I can stop worrying about what I’m going to say next, and focus on what the girl is saying. I’m going to start vibing as much as possible with Aussies to practice opening up. Including guys and girls that aren’t too hot.
On another note; read another excellent post by Krauser. Reflections on daygame. Pointers
- If I approach, and don’t get a number, don’t get a plicker of attraction, then its a reflection of the attraction I’m (not) generating. Work on it.
- Precess the feedback. Work swarter, not harder.
- Don’t ask friends for feedback. Ask enemies… they are honest.
- Don’t make excuses for not succeeding. Instead, realise I’m not all that.