Goals for 2014

2013 was a big year of change for me. Like many guys getting started in the community, I’ve experienced the wild ride of the daygame rollercoaster. Life will not be the same again. I’ve spent January thinking about where I’d like to go in 2014. I didn’t want these to be rash decision made at 11:30 on NYE after 3 bottles of wine, so I’ve taken my time to think about them, and how I’ll go about achieving them.

Fitness: Get a 6 pack. This is my vain, fun goal for 2014. How to go about it: I don’t think this one will be as hard as I’d originally thought. I more or less stopped drinking about two or three months ago, and looking in the mirror, I’m not too far off a six pack already. I work out three to four times and week, and rock climb as well. I’ll add some more core specific stuff to my routines. I’ll also look into my diet a bit more. I eat well, but not totally sure exactly what I should be aiming for in terms of carbs/protein/etc, so I’ll talk to a guy I know who is a nutritionist and has the same goal for some advice. The diet that a lot of fitness guys reccomend seems to be all protein, and I don’t think this would be good for me… I think I’d lose energy without some carbs in there.

Girls: Originally I was planning on setting myself the goal of sleeping with twenty new women in 2014. However, I don’t want to always be chasing that next lay. That leads to a dark life and a lot of putting up with subpar women. I’m also opening myself up to the idea of a relationship again, so I’m not convinced that this is the right girl for me. I’ll keep thinking about where I want to go with this one.

I would like to integrate women and daygame into my life. This means talking to, say 10 new girls a week without going out of my way (ie not doing marathon daygame sessions). I pass through the cbd every day, so this shouldn’t be hard for me to do. Its all mindset, and being ready to pull the trigger and approach without a moment’s hesitation.

Social Circle: I would like to greatly expand my social circle. If there is one thing I can accomplish in 2014, this is it! I have a bunch of friends, but they’re all scattered. They don’t know each other, and I don’t belong to a group that goes out and does shit together. So I’d to develop a group of guys and girls to do shit with more often. Not really sure how to go about this one. (I do realise I’m a bit of an introvert, and I’m cool with that. I might never be the ultimate popular alpha dude, but that doesn’t mean there’s no room for improvement).

I know some guys who are great at making connections with people wherever they go. Social networking if you will. I’d jealous of their ability. The two key things that these guys have in common is that they are confident, and they are interested in what other people have to say. Thats a good starting point.

Introspection: I’ve been doing some introspection lately and realised that I have some personal issues that I need to deal with. You could call it inner game problems. I suspect that this will be the hardest goal for me to achieve, because I find these issues elusive. The two big issues that I want to work on:

1. I still feel that I don’t deserve some of the top tier girls. This is, IMO, ridiculous.

2. I have issues with other peoples success (its difficult for me to come to terms with this). Though I’m glad when my friends achieve somehow, there’s also a bitter side to me, where I feel that that there success somehow subtracts from my own achievements. This is a pretty toxic characteristic.

Finance: I don’t earn a whole lot, now that I’m back at uni. I’m very happy if I can save $100 a week. But I do have a fair bit of money saved up, which I should be doing more with. Lately I’ve been being stressing about money a lot – this is not good for my happiness and vibe. So my finance goals for 2014 are

1. Learn about personal finance, do the most with my savings that I can.

2. Improve my budgeting, so that I’m spending less than I earn each week, whilst still enjoying the lifestyle I’m accustomed too. Ultimately, I don’t want to stress over money. I want to reduce my spending on the ‘fundamentals’ of my life so that, when I do want to spend big on a holiday or a big night out, then I don’t need to worry about finding the cash for it. I don’t mind being poor, but I do not want extra stress in my life (my PhD gives me enough of that already).

3. (Optional) Find additional income streams. I have some ideas for this, I’ll flesh them out in the future. Probably some lair guys can tell me if they’re worth pursuing, or just pipe dreams.

Lifestyle: I want to travel overseas twice this year. Its been ages since I went anywhere. I’ve already booked a flight to Korea, so thats a good start. My parents live in India at the moment, so I’m keen to head over there later in the year.

I also want to improve my public speaking. How to go about it? Give talks on my research at uni. Join toastmasters.

I’m going to go into more detail with each of these goals in the future.

Daygame – James Bond Style

My spycam has finally arrived from Hong Kong, and I’ve been playing around with it over the last two weeks. Video and audio are fine, it tends to be a bit too close up, which isn’t doing the girls any favours – but hey, what they don’t know what hurt them!

First things first, I highly recommend all daygamers to start recording sets. If you’re serious about getting good, its a godsend. Cheap, easy to use, and I was really surprised by how much I’m learning from analysing my own videos (once I got over my hatred of hearing my own voice). Things like:

  • voice tone and speed
  • the way certain lines come across (quite different to what I expected)
  • how long I’m spending in set, and how long and how often I’m spending on comfort/attraction/whatever
  • the girls reactions to all of the above
  • parts where I fucked up and the girl would leave, or where the girl wanted to move on and I recovered

Here’s the set from the Korean I banged last Thursday. Its pretty straightforward, she clearly hasn’t had anyone to talk to all day, so I just jumped straight into comfort once she hooked. Any feedback appreciated.

Addendum: Learned some interesting shit from debriefing her post lay

  • She was wary of me right up until she rejected me on the first kiss and I kept talking to her like nothing happened. That’s when she decided that I genuinely liked her (and I did)
  • She made a joke that I must pick up girls all the time on the street, and then quickly apologised saying “Of course I know you don’t do that”

Yeah, I never pick up girls on the street. That would be weird. Only weirdo PUAs do that. Weirdos.

I finally tap a Korean

My favourite seductions are always those with a time constraint.

In this case, I met a Korean girl out on Swanston St on Wednesday… by no means a total stunner, but a solid set of legs. She was only in town until Friday arvo, and was spending Thursday on the Great Ocean Road, so you could say that this one was not gonna be easy. Its the first set I’ve managed to successfully records and I’m gonna put it up when I sort out some technical difficulties.

I have a history with Korean girls. I’ve dated three of them, had what seemed like pretty killer Day 2s, but then never even gotten a single kiss (despite one of the girls coming back to my place, and letting me massage her ass). Its gotten to the point that I’m really getting frustrated with Koreans. But I digress.

We had a really long instadate – like 6 hrs or something. Coffee, food, beers, cocktails. I was really enjoying her company, and happy to spend a bit of money and time on some lavish venues (to be fair she paid for most of it) I got rejected on the kiss many many times, but it was clearly on, and eventually she relented. I was even thinking about going for the single day lay – I reckon it coulda happened if

a) she didn’t have to get up at 6am the next morning OR

b) I had an apartment in the CBD

So I send her off to her hostel, and go home myself. We’ve made no plans to meet up again, but she did promise to send me some pics of the GOR, and I was gonna take it from there.

Picture the scene – I’m sitting in my office trying to concentrate on some coding, but I’m just wondering whether I can pull this off. I really enjoy it, the excitement, the not knowing whether the stars are gonna align and I’m gonna bang, or go home empty handed (somehow I feel thats not the expression I ought to be using!)

Well she sends me some photos over txt, and I suggest we hang out when she’s back from the GOR – that evening. Her flight’s the next day so its  now or never. Around 8.30pm we meet up – she’s looking fantastic – and grab a beer and some chow on Degreaves St. Once were done I tell her I’m gonna show her some tunes at my place, and she’s clearly a little uncertain; when we arrive there she even tells me she’s gonna run off. But I didn’t understand her, which leads to the perfect non-reactive-ness to her shit test.

Once inside its Standard Operating Procedure. Get her a  drink, chill out for five minutes with my flat mate and leave her alone, show her some of my shit, and then go for it. She seems to really like me, but I’ve never seen so much token LMR. Seriously, its the never ending story! Fuck me! I’m not really good at dealing with LMR – I never use the prescribed PUA techniques cos they feel weird to me, but instead I just give her more comfort and tell her stories where I’ve taken risks and had cool adventures to tell. The whole evening she’s been telling me how she wants to do more things outside her comfort zone, but finds it hard… so I play off that. I think some of the material I came up with was pretty good – I wish I could remember it – and other things I said fell flat on its face. Its all a matter of time and siege tactics, eventually she weakens and I get my Korean flag.

Prepare the siege machines!

I drive her back to the city, and go home, hoping that my (homo) flat mate is gonna be up for a celebratory nightcap (seems like he  laid a new guy that night). Sadly, he’s not around, must be spooning, so I have a rum on my own. Life’s hard sometimes.

Really lovely girl, she sings for me after the sex (she used to be a singer). We caught up for brunch the next day, and if she was living here I’d like her to be one of my main girls for sure. I wish her all the best!

Pretty happy with this week… banged another new girl on Monday (though really nothing to write home about – she was below the Danno-standard (TM), not to mention gagging for it). Hopefully I can get the hat trick.

One to tell the grandkids

This took place on Christmas Eve.

I was daygaming solo, around the city. I haven’t been out a whole lot really, so was dealing with some minor AA – the first time I’d had that in a while. My current methods for dealing with any AA are:

  • Have a fun wing to hang out with
  • Only approach girls that you feel the magnetic pull with. Don’t bother with girls you need to talk yourself into approaching.

Unfortunately, I’m not seeing any girls that I NEED to talk to. So I do a couple of half hearted approaches that go nowhere. I’m really not in the mood to be running around doing full on Yad stops, I’m a little bit low energy; that’s ok.

I spot a short Asain girl coming round the corner, and open her directly, without the need to run after her. Its a fun set, she’s easy to vibe with, innocent but outgoing at the same time. In fact its so much fun that by the time I take her number, I realise I haven’t used any of the usual gambits that usually prop up my daygame. I’m still working on her, might follow up with another post as she’s interesting.

So my state is a bit higher after that, and I spot a tall, elegant Asian girl with long long hair. I open her, and she’s interested, submissive and hooks easily. She jujst accepts from the get go that I am going to chat her up on the street. Annoyingly, a banker comes up to her to say Hello, and she says she needs to go into his bank to get a brochure, but she would like to talk some more. She says she’ll just be a minute, so I grab her number and suggest we get a coffee then and there. B ut it was a very short set, and I’m not sure if she’s actually gonna be keen for the coffee once the short attraction has worn off (had no time to build any rapport). I’m waiting outside the bank for about 10 min, and she’s a no show, so I decide to walk off and keep approaching.

My phone rings and its the Asian girl; she’ s outside the bank and can’t find me, but she still wants to meet. So I find her, and we go for a milkshake. Whilst we’re chatting, she tells me that she’s a full time model and actress. 10 seconds of internet stalking at home later on tells me she’s a minor celebrity in her home country. I figure attraction is already built, so the instadate is mainly rapport and comfort. I shou;da injected more of a sexual vibe though. Still, when her friends call to find out when she can meet them, she tells them ‘she’s busy with someone’. Eventually I need to go meet one of my regular girls, so I say goodbye and run off.

I’m pretty stoked to have been on an instadate with a girl of her standing. Its the sort of story I could tell my AFC friends and they would think I’m making shit up.

Lessons learned: Even when your struggling, keep flipping over stones because you never know what you’ll uncover.