A new accomplishment

I’ve been really excited to update this journal after recent happenings. Life has been getting in the way of doing any writing however, as I’ve started trainng Jiu Jitsu in the morning before going to the office, and doing night (and weekend) classes, so I’m pressed for time.

Last week I posted that I’ve been having a bit of a bad time with daygame. Getting flakes, and not feeling the enthusiasm for hitting the streets and meeting some women. I’m happy to report that things are now looking again.

Did about 15 sets in the last week, and closed 8 of them, which is excellent. Also solid sets with cute girls that I’m looking forward to getting to know, however its not really possible for me to date 8 different girls; some will have to get the cut. 😦

Anyway, there’s one set from Thursday’s session that I wanted to post up, as I accomplished something I’ve been wanting to do for a while.

I’m out with a mate, and the daygame session gets off to a false start. I see this tall, leggy girl with the curly hair that my friends know I love; there is no stopping me, I know I need to approach (Fact 1). She’s waiting at the same traffic lights as me, and glances over at me a couple of time (Fact 2). As she finishes crossing the roads, I run over to approach, but she gives me an instant dismissal.

Considering facts 1 and 2, it seems that I’ve probably approached her before.

My wing and I wander over to Bourke St… to be hoenst, I’m choding out a bit, feeling the appraoch anxiety for the first time in a while, and time is running out before I need to get to a class. Then I spot a friendly looking Asian girl, taking her time on the streets and ambling around. Basically she’s giving the impression that she’ll be an easy stop, and a good warm up set.

Once in set, I find her English is terrible, and I’m not performing the best either. Thoughts of ejecting enter my mind, but I force myself to stay with it. She doesn’t seem to fully hook, and the vibe is friendly, not man to woman. But she’s showing no sign of moving off, so I’m wondering whether I should I take the number or hit the instadate? There are advantages to both. Then I remember two important facts

a) I’ve been planning on buying a boost juice, and
b) We are chatting not 20m from a Boost store

I have a degree in maths, so I put two and two together, and tell her to come get a juice with me. That’s using the ol’ noggin!

Once I’ve got my juice, I figure I may as well take her up to Croft Lane, to see the street art. There’s heaps of cool lanes around China Town to explore as a quick little date with a girl. Its great for foreign girls, who get to see a bit more of the world of Melbourne. So we’re checking out the graffiti, and a thought come into my mind. I’ve been with this girl for about 15min. She’s not IOIing, or giving me a strong gaze, but she seems compliant and has shown no signs of not wanting to continue the interaction. Its time for me to push things and go for my first street kiss close. There’s no one else in the alley, so I grab her hand, put my other hand on her lower back, and gently pull her in. Fully expecting her to pull back, I go for the kiss, and she’s into it. Yes! A new first for me. We make out a bit more, and then I need to head off to class, so we go our separate ways. I’m on a high, and that’s lucky cos it keeps me awake during me 3hr Energy Economics lecture (yawn).

Going from being complete strangers, to making out in the middle of the day, in sub 20minutes, is amazing for me. But it must be even crazier for the girl. I wonder what she’s thinking when she went back to her day? She’s going about her day, maybe buying some groceries, and out of the blue, some dude unexpectedly whisks her off to an alley for a mini sexual adventure. Must fry the brain circuits a little.

Stuck in a rut

Pick up wise, this year hasn’t been that fun for me. It started off with a bang (another one for you Brok), with me taking home two new girls in the first few days of the year.

Since then: nothing (bar some BJs off a girl that wouldn’t sleep with me if I wasn’t gonna commit). Its really dampened my enthusiasm for hitting the the streets. On top of that, when I have gone out to meet women, I’ve been getting lots of flakes.

Compare that to last year: Daygame really fun and novel – sometimes confronting too. Getting numbers frequently, and very rarely getting flakes. Sleeping with a new girl every few weeks. In short: Exciting and new

I feel that its my date-game that is letting me down.

Its damned frustrating, and its turning into a negative feedback loop:

Not getting laid on dates ——> Lack of enthusiasm for daygame ——> Girls sensing that I’m not that keen on them ——> Flakes

Throughout my life, there has been a theme of me becoming reasonably competent at my hobbies (skate boarding, climbing, making beer) during the ‘newbie gains’ phase, and then giving up at the first plateau. \

This will not be one of those times. I need to snap out of it, put in the hard yards, and overcome this.

How to do get that daygame vigour back? I suspect a couple of lays with some exotic foreign birds would do it.

I find some nightgame ideas that stick

I’m not real good at getting outside my head. I overthink everything I do. The long term solution is to get outside my head. A short term solution is this. There’s three videos down the page. Watch them. In summary, its all about intense eye contact, getting in a girl’s face, and subtle kino that makes a set sexual, without letting anyone else know whats going on. At the same time, you can talk about whatever boring shit you want. In fact, getting sexual verbally at the same time as being physically sexual is not recommended. So its good for me, because I can be my low energy, natural self, whilst giving girls this intense eye contact, and warming them up that way.

I didn’t realise that eye contact could be used that powerfully. Previously I’d just been making sure that I held it longer than the girl. So I tried out those Gambler techniques on Tuesday, and the effect was powerful. Fun! I could see the girl’s getting nervous, playing with hair and jewelry, whilst their eyes would lock with mine and spazz out. Really cool for creating a bubble.

Anyway, I was out on Friday night with some of the boys. First venue, I start talking to a mixed two set. Guy is Korean, girl is Japanese. They’re nice. Their English is terrible. Really terrible.

Me: What. Do You (points). Think. Of Melbourne? (indicates).

Her/Him: I am from Melbourne???

Hmmmmmmm.

The girl is well into me – its in the eyes – and the guy is nice but in the way. I tell them I’m going to find my friends. The guy turns away, and the girl just keeps looking at me, deep in the eyes. Thats a nice way to isolate. I lead her away from her friends, but still feel I’m not isolated enough to make out, so decide I’ll wait until later. So I talk to the guys for a bit, and then notice that some other Aussie guy is trying to chat up my Japanese girl. I pussy out on the AMOGing, but though he seems to be doing well, he eventually fucks off. So I go back in, isolate, and find she is not up for making out (with me). Nuts.

Eventually we find ourselves at long room. Its late, and disapointly, the calibre of girls is low. Before I get into my field report, I want to talk about the guys in long room. It seems to me that long room is full of mature aged, ripped, rich beta dudes, who have no idea how to pick up girls. This is in comparison to other bars like the Royal Saxon, which are full of poor, but cool, attractive, surfer type dudes, who definitely don’t wear suits. They may not be experts in game, but I reckon they offer far more competition to me than the rich guys in Long Room, whose sole tactics seem to be buying girls drinks and pulling off chodey dance moves. Embarrassing.

A year ago I would’ve thought these rich guys had it all. Little did I know.

Further, in Long Room, I always seem to get IOIs from girls that are their with a boyfriend. I wonder if its because they get with these guys for their marriage potential, but deep down, they’re more attracted to the surfer type dudes from the Royal Saxon who aren’t pussies around women.

Approach 1: Indian looking girl dancing with some friends. I grab her, and she immediately gets in my face and starts rubbing up against me. I go for the kiss very quickly (sub 30s), but she pulls away. She then kisses me  extremely briefly and walks back to her friends, not to be heard from again. Did I escalate too quickly here, or did I save myself from wasting my time with a girl who wouldn’t have been up for it at any point?

Approach 2: I lock eyes with a girl in a green dress, whose with her friend. I beckon her over, and she’s not the typical Long Room type. She’s too young, and somehow doesn’t seem as made up as the other girls in there.  More like a uni student. My mate distracts her friend, whilst I work on her. This set goes well – we talk about some boring bullshit while I stroke her back and get in her face, eventually going for the make out, which she’s enthusiastic about. In the end, either my girl, or my mates girl, gives the girl code for I wanna get out of here, and that’s that. I’m not sure who screwed it up, it may have been me as I was getting more aggressive with my girl. It doesn’t matter.

Approach 3: Stunning, tall half German, half Chinese girl. She wins the award for stunner of the evening. She was my height (pretty tall), and exquisitely dressed. Should escalated but pussied out despite the liquid courage I’d had… she was that hot.

Approach 4: Was fun. Some Indian looking girl who turned out to be married. My game was solid here. I teased her on being really posh and British, and asked her if she’d been drinking tea all evening. There was a lot of attraction here, but she was determined to stick to her vows, so I left her alone. Fun set.

There were a few more sets, but nothing worth writing about.

Night out with a redhead

Went out with a girl that I’d met down at ABC on a Thursday night sometime ago. She’s tall, leggy, slim, (and also ginger*). Despite her looks and height, she seems pretty nervous, and not used to guys hitting on her (more on this later).

So we meet up, and she’s really nervous. I’m feeling kinda nervous myself – I haven’t been out lately, and tall girls still intimidate me a little. On a whim, I’ve decided we’ll get some chow from a ramen joint (neither of us know what ramen is, but it turns out to be pretty good!), and then head over to E55 for some beverages. She needs to get up at 5am the next morning, so she says she’s only going to have 1 drink.

So whilst we’re having that 1 drink (though it turns into two), she drops the bombshell that no aspiring pua looking for a fast lay wants to hear:

Me: what are your friends like?
Her: I mostly hang out with people from church.
Me: Oh yeah
Her: Wow, lol, the look on your face! (Guess I didn’t conceal that well).

In fact, she says the Lord wants her look for a husband. So she doesn’t get out a whole lot, doesn’t meet many guys. Explains why she’s so nervous. The good thing is this makes it easy to impress her (she says we have a connection). The down side is I’m getting cockblocked by the Lord.

Overall, we had a good time together. I was a bit intimidated by her height, and so sometimes I didn’t articulate myself very eloquently. I want to work on that. By the end of the night, we were holding hands, and the evening had a pretty intimate feel to it, but she definitely wasn’t up for making out. Its not totally clear, but I think sex before marriage is not on for her. Nonetheless, she’s chill and I wouldn’t mind adding her to the social circle.

Things to work on
Need to increase composure around those hot, intimidating, tall girls. Even a couple of hours in to the date, I couldn’t really relax. This is also a problem for me when speaking in larger groups. In the future, I’m gonna socialise a lot more, to all sorts of people, and just practicing relaxing, being present, and saying whatever comes to mind without thinking about it. In that respect, analyzing what I’m saying from a pua perspective may be hurting me. Time to stop worrying whether I”m building enough rapport, need to spike attraction, blah blah blah.

*This fact is important, not because I”m particularly keen on redheaded girls, but because one of my friends has made it his mission to sleep with a girl with red hair this year (or possibly by April, I don’t recall). Its always satisfying to beat people at their own game. Competition is good for productivity buddy! :P