Tack För Sverige

Quarter 4 of 2014 has kicked off bang (actually a few of them).

Saturday night saw me getting rummy – extremely rummy! – at a party. Around midnight the team jumped in a car to one of the local rehydration stations bars.

There was a bit of a line to get in (bad). But we were waiting behind some swedish girls (good). Three of us, and three of them. I ended up talking to a tall, sexy girl with dark hair and strong blue eyes. She wasn’t bitchy… but a bit defiant. Her eye contact was pretty strong. She’d make strong, resistant eye contact with me, and I think it was all so she could be slapped down. Enjoyable. Like Taylor wrote, its great when girls challenge you.

I tried on some of Krauser’s eye mesmer/hynotic scanning routines, and they worked a charm- we were making out before we’d made it into the venue.

I think the seduction was over by this point. She went to the toilets and then danced with her friends. She’d try to get my attention whenever I was around. We danced a bit and I hung out with some other girls to try to get a jealousy plotline going but was probably unnecessary. Also I had some more beers which was definitely unnecessary!

Took her to a couch, where she wanted to put her number in my phone. Instead I wanted to put her in a taxi to my place, and so I did.

The sex was dirty, sordid and grotty. I liked it. Like having a kebab at 4am.

LMR Battles

Good girls aren’t really good girls.

Met this girl in a bar. She’s on holiday for a couple of weeks, got a boyfriend back home. A total good girl. A little shy, goes to church. Tells me she won an award for being the most well behaved student in high school.

And totally addicted to dominant bad boys. I’ve met her type before. Despite her extreme sweetness, she’s got a cheeky side to her I love.

We talk for 10 minutes in the bar, and I tell her I want to kiss her. Her response:’No my friend will see’.

The next morning she starts messaging me. We arrange to meet the following evening. I’m excited. Really super excited. Firstly, I’m back into the game in a big way. Everything in life is going well right now. I want to meet girls! Secondly, there’s something about pulling another’s man’s girl that I crave. That’s a bit of an inner game issue; something I should deal with. Personally I don’t care about sleeping with taken girls – its dark but if they’re gonna cheat, they’re gonna cheat. But I don’t like the idea that I’m excited about taking something that belongs to another guy. Points to some lack of self-worth like I need validation not just from pulling women, but from pulling other men’s women.

We meet up, get some sushi and a beer. Inane chatter. She tells me she lost her virginity in a toilet at age 14. I tell her how I used to be super shy and got used to socialising as much as possible (of course she doesn’t believe me).

She’s fucking cute by the way. Absolutely tiny.

As we head for the next bar, I try on a little kiss close gambit, and she resists. At the next bar, resistance is dialed up to 11. She won’t sit near me, definitely won’t kiss, but still it just seems like she’s up for it. I’m getting a little frustrated though. Her friend calls her to try and get her to meet for a drink but she won’t leave. She starts hitting me and trying to pinch me. She’;s doing it all the time, and I get annoyed, grab her arms, her push her down on the couch and kiss her.

She’s into it. In a big way. But as soon as we stop, she goes quiet and into deep thought. I guess her boyfriend is on her mind, but later I find out what it really is. We make out, drink and talk. It’s cool, I like her. We grab more beer and go to my place.

Thus commences the LMR battle to end all LMR battles. She’s highly resistant to kissing, and keeps telling me half-heartedly that she has a boyfriend. But when I do occaisionally get her kissing, she’s uncontrollable.

Each time we have 2 minutes of intense making out, then she flips out. I notice the more dominant I am, the more I just ignore her protests, the more she likes it.

“I have a boyfriend”
“Shhh – kiss my neck”
Obeys

She puts no effort to try and remove herself from the bedrooms, and keeps drinking so I’m just taking that as a sign to keep escalating.

But she won’t remove her goddamn dress. Just will not do it. After an hour of this back and forth, I’m on my knees on the bed and pull her against me (she’s tiny). She’s so into it, and I’m fucking determined to get that dress on. I’m pulling it off and she’s pulling it on.

“I’m gonna take this thing off!” Give her the eye mesmer. “I’ll rip it if I have to”.

And she lets me take it off.

Soon her tits are out. Progress.

But it’s still 1 step forward, 1 step backward. She’s seriously stubborn. Another hour goes by, a couple of freeze outs, and there’s no way she’ll let me get those panties off. But she makes no effort to leave whatsoever.

She needs to let her boyfriend know where she is. Phone comes out.

After 2 hrs I’ve given up. Its not happening. I still had a good time with her, but I’m not getting anywhere! Its frustrating. I start going to sleep and she lies next to me. Occaisionally we kiss a little, but that’s it.

She’s holding my hand and rubbing it a little.

‘Give it one more go’ I think. We start kissing, and soon she’s on top of me rubbing her pussy on my cock (panties still on). I’m fingering her pussy and she’s moaning hard. I go to pull the panties off and she’s pulls them back on. FUCK! I pull them off. She pulls them on.

I try to pull them off.

Something snaps…

She helps me get them off quick smart and jumps on top of me, looks at me, and asks if I want to do this.

Yes.

After 3hrs of anticipation, my dick is ready to explode  – 3hrs of hard work, 20seconds of sex! WOO!

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This taught me a fucking heap about game.

Outer game:
-There are no good girls.
-Taken girls can be escalated faster.
-If she’s in the bedroom, keep escalating.
-Women will cheat. I don’t want to get cheated on. The only solution I see to this is to choose very carefully which girls I bring into my life, and to get very good at game.

Inner game
-I love these sweet girls with a hidden bad side.
-Getting enjoyment out of taking another man’s woman is not the way to a whole some life. It screams of taking value. A demon to be slayed.
-Some girls shouldn’t be touched. This may have been one of them. She’s already way attached to me. But I don’t have the will power to not sleep with them. Not at the moment, maybe not ever.

A man has to have principles. As it stands, I try to always let a girl know that I’m unlikely to be monogamous with her, prior to sleeping with her (not 100% there yet).

With taken women, I think more principles need to be added.
-No cutting another man’s lunch because I can – it has to be about the girl.
-Nothing that could break up a family.
-Not playing a girls emotions to make her get attached to me when I don’t have the attention of giving her a relationship.
-No girls that are with guys I know, whether I like them or not.

Some of these are easier to stick to than others. I like to think that once day I’ll get to the point where knowing I could pursue a girl is enough, without having to do it.

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Anyway, it was a huge emotional battle. So many ups and downs. The resulting dopamine hit/adrenal rush has put me on a natural high for 24hrs so far and still going storng. It feels good. Really good.

The next day the Dragons congregated for a celebratory milkshake. Those are good guys, they’ve helped me a lot in getting to this point, and I wanted to thank them for that, so the milkshakes were on me.

Dragons attack!

Measured by volume of sets, no. of daygame milkshakes consumed, or quantity of porker’s approached, this was a big weekend!

6pm Friday saw me meeting up with Shaz, for a refreshing milkshake (MS #1), and a quick bit of daygame. During Shaz’s first set, some dude came up to me to tell me he was mighty impressed with Shaz’s balls for approaching a girl like that. Thought of the day: Random dude is impressed  by Shaz complimenting a random female stranger, but thought nothing of complimenting a random male stranger?

I was feeling a bit nervous, but went to chat to a couple of tanned girls, who turned out to be younger than what I usually go for. Sixteen is too young for me personally, so I left quite quickly. Gus – a young guy new to the game and a colleague of Shaz joined us for his first ever daytime set. For a 19yr old he’s a bit of a gunner, full of confidence and charisma. Watching him in action was good, because he committed all sorts of technical issues that have become instinctually part of my daygame method.

Pretty soon, we we’d had enough DG, and it was decided that prior to nightgaming, we should all go to my place to get on the piss and hang out. I’ve recently moved into this inner city dump; total shithole but its made up for by its excellent location, allowing minimal travel for me to get to work, to gym, to the bars, to jiu jitsu, and to climbing. There’s a decent bar 20m from my house, and bottle store another 10m away. And an Indian supermarket full of delicious $2 curry. I’m sure its gonna see a lot of Friday and Saturday night action from our crew (affectionately and somewhat ironically called the Red Dragons – until we come up with something better).

1 six pack later…

Gus had to roll off due to work, so Shaz and I headed to the Lion. We went straight for the dancefloor, which Slider and another friend had nicely warmed up. So our group of four, plus some random hangers on – was loud and in charge in the centre of the DF. I was feeling drunk and arrogant at this point, and it really felt (to me at least) like we could do no wrong. Like a force of nature, wherever I went people were reacting to me and every group of girls seemed to be IOIing.

It was that perfect amount of drunkeness that makes me super confident but not annoying. If I could replicate that attitude while sober, I would be set.

However, results weren’t all that forthcoming, and the Dragons decided to head to ABC. Shaz pulled me into that typical nightgame conundrum where there’s one porker and one hottie. I was with the porker. I was drunk, she had a cute face, and was from the Philippines (a new country for me), so logic seemed to dictate “fuck my dignity, I’ll escalate hard”. This was the first time I was trying out a new method, which is basically escalate covertly so only you and her know whats going on, and her friends have no idea. The idea is that it builds a lot of tension because the girl wants to kiss you but you don’t let her. At the same time its exciting cos you’re saying inappropriate things or grabbing her ass and yet no one else has any clue whats going on.

To give some idea of this:

  • “Oh you’re a nurse? I’m going to be a doctor. If we hang out, it’ll be like a porno I watched. “
  • “You just rubbed your tits on my arm. That’s nice”
  • “I want to feel your tits. Turn around so your friend doesn’t notice”

I tried to do bad things to her in the toilets, but she ran away.

At this point it was only Slider and I remaining. Next we went to Toff (I think). I don’t remember a whole lot of this, but there was a fun set with a Colombian whose number I grabbed, and hopefully that’ll lead somewhere good. Energy levels started to drop and we parted ways, planning to go hard the next day.
Also, at some point Slider and I ended up in a big set of headscarf girls, and I think they loved it. I was drunk and don’t remember that much of it, so Slider, if you’re reading this, provide a breakdown, cos I am interested to hear what happened.

The following day…

Slider and I failed at fixing my car, and decided to day game instead. We saw a super tall Aussie girl that I was too scared to approach and that’s a real shame. Instead we went a got another milkshake (MS #2). The girls in that shop know me so well, and I’ve even been clubbing with them, such is my milkshake consumption.

We didn’t do that many sets, but as a first set I tried to pull a headscarf girl. It was not bad, but not good enough to grab a number, and she didn’t seem dtf anyway. After a few more sets I think we got tired and went to get beer at some point, then ran into heaps of other PUAs in fed square.

Next on the agenda was a date with a Japanese girl I’d met earlier that week. She tried to bring friends along, which I really wasn’t in the mood for, and told her that. So thankfully, she turned up alone. We had a pleasant evening sipping a beer in fed square. Her English is horrible, but she’s got a lovely personality and tight body, so everyone was happy. It was just a short date to get on her radar since she’s going on holiday for two weeks. Job done. She wouldn’t kiss though, but said next time she wanted to, if that means anything.

Then back to meet Slider, who had caught up with Shaz and Nick- who was drinking his fourth Mother of the day! We headed back to the dump for rock n roll and more beers. This was good. Feeling refreshed, we all headed to rooftop. Well not quite. We lost Nick on the way (hope you’re alive bro), and Slider got stuck in the queue, which was my fault (sorry man), and had to wait for ages to get in. But Shaz and I slipped past security super quick, and started smashing set after set after set! The beers were really setting in at this point. A few memorable sets:

  • Shaz and I told some girls we wanted to practise trying to pick them up, then said inappropriate things to them, such as ‘Hi – You’ve got nice tits. We wanted to say hello’. It seemed ok but we didn’t really push it anywhere.
  • A hot german girl threw herself at me, but despite how keen she seemed, I couldn’t get her to make out. Does that happen to anyone else? I have her number but I’ll be fucked it I can remember what I saved it as, so I doubt that’ll go anywhere.
  • I met some random dude and then opened a couple of Phillapino’s and pulled him in. He tried to take the hot one, and I decided ‘that shall not do’. He was an alright guy, but tried too hard to impress her with his dancing. I like to think I’ve got a LOT of experience pulling Asians, so grabber her back. It was kinda loud, so I used that old Mystery line on her friend ‘hey its loud over here, ok if i take your friend over there and chat for a couple of minutes? Cool?’. Works well. She had a boyfriend but was still keen. I told her I wanted to kiss and her and she said ‘not here, my friend will see’. Fair enough. She’s chasing hard over txt now. I’ve never gotten a taken girl out on a date, and to be frank, it excites me. Post set, Shaz informed that he was distracting her friend like a champ – Red Dragons running like a well oiled machine! Thanks bro!
  • Later down in Toff, a three set of mexican’s. It was dark, and I couldn’t see well/was drunk so I just chose one of them to target. Well it turned out the other two were hot and the one I chose was a porker, so that sucked. It didn’t stop me and I tried to pull her in the toilet, but no good. I think she got angry cos I made out with heaps of other girls in front of her later on.
  • A two set of Swedes were both really into me. All my friends had left at this point so there was no one to bring into the set. Neither girl was going to let the other have me alone, so I was thinking ‘how do i solve this problem’. The phrase ‘hot swedish lesbians’ came into my mind and I grabbed both their hands for a double salsa spin, then put their hands on my ass, and grabbed both of their cute little butts. They didn’t seem to mind, so I tried to get a three way make out going, and they weren’t having a bar of it lol. We hung out for a bit, but later in the night I saw them again and they were really cold. Oh well!
  • Ended up in a set of four local girls. One was keen to dance, and quite nice. It was her birthday in fact, and she had a great personality for an Aussie toff girl. We actually had more a daygame style conversation. I really liked her. She bought me a beer that I didn’t need and we hung out on the balcony. I took the jerk route – telling her she’s a bitch and so on and so forth, which is always a good way to spike girls. 80% of my material is either ‘you’re a bitch’ or ‘your tits are nice’. Its all you need. She made me promise to call her next week and then went off to find her friends who seemed to have left. Its a shame I couldn’t get her home.

A few more sets, and then home to be met with a big hangover the next morning. It was a really awesome night and I enjoyed all this ridiculous shit that was going on.

After breakfast, into the CBD for a coffee with Vangaurd. On the way to meet him, I opened a super cute Chinese girl who was with a friend. I made a mistake here, spiked way too hard and they ran off. I kept telling her I didn’t believe she was Chinese and she shouldn’t be such a dirty liar. The girls were like ‘OMG OMG’, and then ran away, haha.

After coffee, another milkshakje (MS #3). Addict.


Daygame – what i actually do

Later I wanted to meet the Japanese girl from the previous day, and she agreed. She was late and whilst I was waiting, I opened a Vietnamese girl sitting next to me. Seemed to go well, but she wouldn’t give up the number. Either my calibration is off and she wasn’t that into me, or something else was going on. Does that happen to other guys? You’re sure she’s into you and yet she won’t give up the number?

The date with the Japanese girl was cool, but again she wouldn’t kiss and that’s annoying.  My usual method with shy girls is to just dominate and overwhelm, but it was a no go. So Shaz suggested I try the good ol’ freezeout, which seems like a good idea, so long as I don’t come across as a sulky little child. I also came up with a cool routine which I may as well describe.

  • Start describing the scene around you. For example ‘smell the coffee, feel the warmth of the mug. Listen to the noises around us. The background chatter, the coffee machine, the air conditioner. Can you hear it all? What else can you hear? Feel the hard seat beneath you, feel your socks against your toes.
  • Describe the concept of ‘being totally present’, not worrying about the future or the past. Just being immersed in the current moment, where nothing matters.
  • Segue into how climbing makes you present, because its requires all your attention to stay alive. “When you’re 50m off the ground, totally alone, your blood pumping and your heart beating, you’re not worrying about your assignment or the arguement you had with your fried last week. The sun shining on the back of your neck, there’s a beautiful view below you, and the winds is cool on your face. But the only important thing is pulling off that next move, and not falling off. “
  • Then describe the same thing that happens during sex. “Its just you and one other person – the rest of the world doesn’t exist. Its so intense, so pleasurable, so full that your mind switches off, and your body takes over – total instinct. You’re like an animal’.

Someone with better descriptive skills than me could probably articulate that a bit better than I do. Seems to work well.

Where I’m at

I decided I would write up a quick post to record the place I’m in at the moment, even though that place has little to do with girls.

Last week I broke up with all the girls I am currently involved with, for various reasons. As a result I am not currently getting laid, and for once I don’t feel the urge to change that. That doesn’t bother me, and I’m way more focused on other things at the moment – namely, getting getting as good at jiu jitsu and climbing as possible, grounding myself in economics, and doing some wider reading relating to my phd.

I think at some point, everyone who enters the community to ‘fix and improve themself’ needs to take the leap of faith in leaving it. You are fine as you are” You don’t need to push yourself all the time. You can relax and enjoy yourself.

That is the point I’m at right now. Spending my weekends chasing girls and hanging out on watsapp groups full of determined (and lets be honest, kinda weird) pussy chasers was not making me feel like the man I wanted to be. Its time for me to move away from the pua identity.

Having said that, I do have a couple of female prospects – one that I quite like, and one that I could take or leave.

Inner game continues to be of huge interest to me. I have a few posts on that theme that I might put up; they’ll be depressing to read, so to those who actually read this, CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED!

I’ve got a lot of good friends who are good at persuading me to go out and game, so I guess I’ll still hit the streets anyway, but my urge to meet women has dropped off. No idea how long that’ll last.

Also, I do want to focus on getting more quality people in my life (male or female), so meeting people is still something I’ll be very open to.

I’m quite comfortable with where I’m at at the moment. But, I think that in terms of socializing and pulling girls, I haven’t reached my potential, so I certainly see myself returning to more cold approach in the future.